His coworkers, his family and all our friends(except my mothers best friend and my grandma)all believed he was blemish free. You should feel happy that his family are the type to grow bonds with the familial partners. I dont talk to or see my family anymore. He wanted me to pack my clothes and leave. I totally agree. I would never go to his familys holiday celebrations or take vacations with them. Unfortunately the marriage just did not work. You cannot accept the fact that your perceived value far exceeds your worth so you constantly have to prop up the false character you have created to fool everyone yet once again I remind you that I can see right through your masks. I dont think they have cried over us etc which suggests a lack of depth of feeling in the first place. From now on, disappear his ex wife out of your emotional life by refusing to let her actions affect your peace of mind. They like him better than me and thats clear. It doesnt make it any less painful. I have gotten more love and support from friends than own family and am truly thankful for that or I dont think I would have made it thru. All these years later, my family still chooses him. Her family is not being loving to her at all. I have long ago accepted their hate and moved on. You need to grow up butter cup! Or he dated her for a long time and wants to keep them as memories. I am in so much pain. This is a bad sign for your romantic relationship because the seeds for romance are being sown in these late-night calls with someone your ex has been in love with before. Is there more to the story that you dont know? You don't have to cut an ex's family out entirely after a breakup. Not too long ago she screen shot a message tha. "@context": "https://schema.org", One last thing my parents went to thier graves not knowing the truth about our brackup they had assumed it was because of me but the truth is it was the ex who cheated. My boyfriend Tom dated Nina for 3 years (They broke up in 2017). I do have the support of my very elderly parents, who are deeply hurt by my sisters choices as they have asked the same of them and their wishes have been ignored. No one can say why. Very disrespectful of your family to not consider your feelings. I think these comments are horrid, maybe I missed something but Jesus, try to look at this from the guys perspective, you have full custody of HIS KIDS, theyre not just yours, just because hes more financially set and has an actual love life doesnt mean you have any right to allow your jealousy to hurt him. Were your sisters and/or Mom jealous of you? My widowed sister who never really got to know my ex because we were military and voiced complaints about how he treated me invited him to her house for dinner. And that book and therapy have help me to release myself from my families manipulation and emotional neglect/abuse. Its like she cant move on. OMG! Take care. My ex always said I had issues with authority is all I wasnt abused by her. Finally if you are a christian, please forgive yourself, your family and your ex and save yourself the headache and burden of the pain. She wanted the divorce. I became happier and for me, I cut my losses and moved on when my biological family was so thoughtless and pulled into my exs narcissistic smooth manipulations. I ask my family why they keep my ex family on as friends on face book? It is an extremely difficult situation. You ended it move on I stand by there is alwasy 3 sides to a story hishers.and the truth and the truth is seldom told. Ive had discussions with my brother about how uncomfortable it makes both myself and my 2nd wife of 18yrs, but his response is always the same, I wasnt in charge of the invites. Worst part is, my anniversary with my 2nd wife is on the same day they celebrate my twin nieces birthday. I was 18 when I got into a really nasty breakup with my ex-boyfriend one week before graduating from high school and moving onto college. well got a 7 year sentence but knock down to 4 yrs with my testimony. spell to cancel a divorce or to cause a divorce and death spell to silence your enemies [emailprotected] gmail. Be the first to know what's trending, straight from Elite Daily. And not just my mother but my aunt, grandmother, and my brother. Not surprisingly most of them are women. Your divorced for a reason and the main reason is you no longer want him in your life. Your boyfriend's family probably still want him and his ex to get back together. Im with you and think your family needs to rethink their loyalty. Ive called her on this and told her it is inappropriate. My mother told me to get out of her house shortly after I proposed to my wife now. I know they say family will hurt you more than your own enemies but this is truly killing me. They divorced. Your better of and are lucky in ways you cant imagine, what if it where the opposite and you getting divorced meant you found out he never cared and fucked off entirely and made no effort to pay alimony/child support(unless there above 18) and didnt make an effort to know his children? After reading the original post and seeing the many responses, I feel so much better because I know I am not alone in this. Would you like your family to? My ex-husband left to Mexico, so he never paid child support; left me with bills galore, but ironically still continued visiting my family members, whom knowingly knew, how he treated his family.. And if you do, its not the best for your children. His family is very traditional. Am I overreacting or is my frustration justified? Instead they decided to stick by my ex, even giving him a three piece suite knowing I had nothing! It seems possessive, like shes making sure I know shes always going to be around? If terms are good I would expect you to be sending the invite when appropriate events require him to be with your family unit and your extended family. I'll bring the and soda, this will be fun to watch. That doesnt mean that they may never see him again, but you should be the one that makes that decision, and they need to wait for you to make that call. He has been featured media like Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Marie Claire, Grazia & Elle. Hes in his early 20s and is hopping around from girl to girl while having just welcomed his son, Paul last January from a previous relationship (Paul is not my actual child, by the way. They are already making their choices, which is to involve him in their lives still. I just want to say thank you for most of these posts. You need to have a heart-to-heart conversation with your boyfriend about his feelings towards his ex, his feelings towards this little girl, and where he sees things going in the future. Shes been invited to my cousins wedding. He constantly contacts my brothers wife and gives her the woe is me sob story and she feels sorry for him. It didnt. I confronted my family members about the situation and I was met with resistance and belittled. My kids are grown. Mom should be thankful. My mothers brother was divorced when I was a kid. Those guys can distance themselves from a woman without giving a damn. Now, my two sisters, my mom, and I all live in the same town. Lets stop and look at it from another point of view. Absolutely. I cannot change them and will concentrate on the wonderful people who have supported me. Maybe you should try to be more considerate of your familys feelings. ", xx. cuz he broke my heart . I too have gone thru this and still am 3 years later! Im so sorry I know your pain and it runs so deep aleast with me!!! Then you risk losing your daughter. Here's Why I'm Still Friends With My Ex's Mom Even A Decade Later. Relationship coach Fran Greene, LCSW, told Elite Daily that the ideal situation is one where the split was mutual. More than likely, keeping the ex in the picture is just a manipulative strategy to run off you or any new woman who comes into her son's life. I dont get it and I dont think you are being unreasonable at all. He still shows up for Fathers Day dinners, Easter, Christmas, 4th of July, etc. Kristin Marquet Chester, for instance, grew very close to her boyfriends' parents over the course of their year-long relationship. I feel it was beyond disrespectful, and now Ive completely had it. Just try to be the best girlfriend you could possibly be. They not thinking about you, sounds like they want you to be in misery. He can now go to a family birthday, without the situation becoming uncomfortable since he hasnt introduced them to anyone else in the meantime. She sits with them for family events (graduations, etc), and doesnt speak to me. I feel sorry for your ex. YOU GOT A DIVORCE?! com) that he can help me silence my uncle so i can have my peace in the house , without wasting any time i contacted dr peter and He helped me silence my uncle with his powerful death spell magic that he cast on my wicked uncle . Also, it is disrespectful! It keeps me up at night and breaks my heart. How they even think its okay whatsoever is insane to me. No way girl! The bottom line is, youre with their son now and therefore part of their lives too, so they should take on board what you have to say. Yet I know its a form of punishment. My two teen children cant understand why my sisters husband and my ex still communicate after knowing the hell my ex put us through. I presumed my husband had my best interests at heart because he loved me but he didnt. I am a very private person. I feel for you. Jesus got your back and only him can you trust and only him deserves your loyalty cos he is faithful. They have no conscience and neither does a family that chooses them over their own. Often the person leaving has been putting in the most effort and done everything they can to save the relationship before they throw in the towel. but, SHE can introduce her new boyfriend to my ex a year before ever introducing him to me! I hope you meet your new source of supply, and still remain stuck in that grass is greener mentality. One has been won over by family manipulation. I have cut ties with all of them now.. Its been years and Ive tried to explain to my mother that she is my EX wife and her place is with her family,not mine.. didnt work.. this has strained my relationship with everyone in my family.. Im afraid I dont really have much advice for you but I do think its a lot for you to go through and if youve been handling it up to now the way you have Good for you. It is unreasonable what is going on. When you think youre the only one, it can be a lonely place. Take care of yourself. family isnt always blood. Its too long to write about and most prior comments hold a piece of my story. If she needs any more evidence that shes blind and selfish, shes not paying attention. My narcissistic sisters were obnoxious to me at the funeral. Who do you think you are? Your kids will understand. Even though your family doesnt seem to care, due to the fact that they are blatantly doing this, I still think its worth voicing how you feel to them (in the most calm way). The visit came on the same very day we had plans of our own with my mother and sister. I realize that he has helped her with repairs. My husband thinks it is completely crazy and my mom doesnt like him because he has always set boundaries and doesnt even know what a boundary is. by Kelli Ann Apr 10, 2018. You will fear death more and more as you age and become more bitter and resentful. They know theyre doing wrong. My ex has 8 brothers and sisters but has decided to take my one sister also. You cant expect to bring someone into your life, share your family with that person for 10+ years and then expect everything to stop because you dont want to be around them any more. Its about family and and the children you have together!!! Im not sorry to say that a boundary line has definitely been crossed!! I never even had one phone call or message from any of my family, even after asking if any of them could have the boys for any time! Thatd be the day Id ever let anyone tell me who I can visit with. Its possible to live a happy healthy life without your family constantly involved in your life. I dont think you are being unreasonable at all. I feel sorry for my ex husbands new partner because she will sadly see the light in the long run. You hate him. I shouldnt have to give them reasons. I have a similar situation going on, but with a twist. \, Exactly..I wish my brother see this way and STOP hanging out with my ex . In reality he beat my mother relentlessly and emotionally abused us kids as well. I am going through the exact situation! If a guy is sad for a day, its not a big deal. Once you are in a relationship with a new person, still having photos of your ex is a big red flag. You choose to break your marriage vows then you also choose to break the design and purpose of a marriage. Your family needs to respect your choice in divorcing him and cut ties as well. Hes not a healthy person, and hes extremely selfish. He never liked my mom and would complain about her constantly. Having said that, just tonight I very very nicely turned down three invitations from my ex-brother-in-law (20+ years ago was the divorce). My sister did HIM wrong, by cheating with multiple partners. I think fictitious, cutesy movies and television shows about exes unrealistically co-existing have given society the impression that all divorce situations can be that way. I got custodial custody of our 2 children and he had every other weekend and now they are both over 18 and they are pulling this ridiculous behavior of thinking he is such a wonderful guy. While taking 20 year olds around the world on trips Then ask yourself why theyre still in touch, and find out how often and in what way they have contact. We will probably have to move out of state again once the drama starts. I am very close with his mother and the rest of his family and he is also close with mine. My Stepmum gave up a baby and when they reconnected when he didnt behave how she wanted him to she kind of gave up on him. For my family, even if my parents liked my bf's they'd always cut ties because it's just the thing you do. Her family even shows the Signs a Family Member Doesn't Like You to you. Your family should cut ties with you and your nasty attitude. At my mothers house with my 2 sisters and their 5 cousins. 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